Trying for a baby the good, bad and ugly

If you’re trying to get pregnant and are having difficulty, you know just how much of an emotional roller coaster it can be. The joy of planning a pregnancy, starting or growing your family, and all the wonderful emotions that go with it can leave you beaming at times. But it’s also very easy to get discouraged when the pregnancy test comes back negative again 
So the time has come when you are your partner, girlfriend, boyfriend or husband want to start a family. Perhaps you have just got married or are not married and have been together for a while and you want to start making a family.  It’s not normally one-sided but there is always one person who wants it a little bit more than the other person. Lets put it another way there is always one person who is more ready than the other person, not in all cases but in the majority of cases.
These could be the reasons why most couples want to start a family;
  • Some couples are going to become natural parents and they have naturally grown into parents and are naturally ready for becoming parents
  • Other cases women are keen to take the next step and maybe are not married they hope that the next step will also lead to marriage
  • You feel that you have been married for a few years and want to do something more meaningful this draws you to have children
  • There are women who have reached a certain age and feel that it’s now or never with having kids ( time is ticking away)
  • Other rare cases its spontaneous and not thought through in great detail easy-going happy-go-lucky approach
  • It could be that one partner convinces the other partner that they should have children they plant the seed and then they are later convinced it’s what they want too
  • I have heard of some cases where the couple are not 100% all the way through but once the child comes they are ready – Many people say you will never be ready
  • Most people feel like having a child is a gift from God and they want to grow and build a family based on knowing this and having seen friends around them doing it inspires them
  • Many people in your friendship group start to have kids this may kick start the talks and discussions
Everyone checks this I am sure of it – The stats page around how long it takes to have a child. Lets see what the numbers say – it’s horrible to think we all ball down to a number but its true when you are trying you like the facts and figures for reassurance
In general, a fertile couple has a good chance of getting pregnant within a year, as out of 100 couples trying to conceive naturally:
  • 20 will conceive within one month
  • 70 will conceive within six months
  • 85 will conceive within one year
  • 90 will conceive within 18 months
  • 95 will conceive within two years
These are the factors that could impact you conceiving
  • Whether you have any reproductive problems, such as a history of pelvic diseases
  • Your age, diet and lifestyle
  • Jobs and partners job
  • Whether you are overweight or underweight ( saying that there are lots of overweight women getting pregnant)
  • How regular you have sex
  • Most important how relaxed you are and your mental state
  • How much you are focused on the task in hand can prolong getting pregnant
Ways and things that help
  • They say going on holiday seems to help and even on a honeymoon
  • Relaxing and not checking the Ovulation apps all the time relax and don’t plan it too much
  • Keeping fit and exercising on a regular basis
  • Seeking medical attention after a year of trying as it could be something simple to fix
  • Be positive about it happening the mental side of things makes a big difference
  • It’s not a science not one thing will work just understand when you ovulate and try to do it near that time
Quotes about fertility
“Hope is that thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops… at all.” – Emily Dickinson
“To eat bread without hope is still slowly to starve to death.” – Pearl S. Buck
“Courage, it would seem, is nothing less than the power to overcome danger, misfortune, fear, injustice, while continuing to affirm inwardly that life with all its sorrows is good; that everything is meaningful even if in a sense beyond our understanding; and that there is always tomorrow.” – Dorothy Thompson.
“The inability to open up to hope is what blocks trust, and blocked trust is the reason for blighted dreams.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
“Hope never abandons you, you abandon it.” – George Weinberg
When the world says, “Give up,”
Hope whispers, “Try it one more time.” – Author Unknown
“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” -Martin Luther King Jr.
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” – Dale Carnegie.



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